Recovery

Matthew had surgery today and he did not die (see last post). He is alive and feeling it very much. The nurse at the hospital today said that the dr. was stingy with the meds as Matthew woke up from being knocked out. He woke up with a 9 on the pain scale of 1 - 10. So it took a while to get the pain under control which meant that his pulse and blood pressure were up. But after some time in recovery, he was good to go. As far as surgery, it was a success! He has a plate and some screws. He will be on bed rest for a minimum of one month. We (Lexi and I) continue to be glad that he is at home. He however, might become bored soon.

Thank you for you prayers! One very cool story about the prayers which were offered up today. Matthew had to be at the hospital at 8:15. They started him on fluids and I got hang with him until they wheeled him up for surgery. I was nervous about the day and just kept praying. As they wheeled Matthew away I was finally at peace about the surgery and was totally calm from then on out. We got home at about 4 pm. I looked at my phone and I had a missed call and voice mail from a gal at church (B.P.) Don't want to use her name just in case she would prefer not to be listed on the web. She was leaving a message to let us know she was thinking of us and then she prayed into the phone. Her prayer was for M's surgery, that he wouldn't have too much pain and that I would have peace. Do you know that at about the time she was praying into my voice mail was about the time that I finally had peace about this surgery. Did that give you goose bumps or as they say in Hawai'i - chicken skin? So God was definitely present in that hospital today thanks to all of you who prayed and trusted. Thank you for you prayers and thank you for your calls.

Matthew is on his way to running marathons again with this short interruption in our plans.

NJ moms who read this...do you know someone I could have come over to watch Lexi so I could get some housework done? Of course I would pay the person, but I just don't know who is available during the day. I just need some focused time to catch up on housework from the last week and 1/2.

Have a wonderfully wonderful day!

Surgery

Matthew goes in for surgery on Monday. Matthew did an excellent job at making sure his foot was VERY broken. It will be an in and out procedure in only 1/2 a day. Lexi and I will be waiting at the hospital just hanging out to be there after he comes out of recovery. I have a superstition that my step-mom agrees to; if you discuss the worst case, then the worst case will not happen. Matthew thinks I am silly for thinking this way, but you do what you have to. So here is the worst case...

Matthew has a reaction to the medicine. He is unable to wake up and ends up dying. I have to call family to tell them that Matthew is dead and then plan a funeral while taking care of his daughter left behind from this terrible situation. I have to raise her making sure that she knows her daddy loved her and adored her while not holding a dead man over her whom she doesn't remember knowing. Balance between holding his memory for her and letting go since he is gone.

Ladies from Transformed moms, this is where my anxiety really comes into play and I am not so great at keeping it in check.

Alright, now that is out there, all will be fine. Matthew will be home for 4 to 8 weeks depending on recovery and what the Dr says. He is pretty out of it because of the meds. So please say a prayer for me to be patient with him. I don't understand! Anytime I have something medically going on (having a baby) Matthew is patient and does whatever I need. When he is injured, I get very impatient and just want him to act normal. So please pray that I will SERVE him and make his life better by serving him while he is down. My priority is to make him as happy and as comfortable as possible. He is in pain or very out of it (medicine head) so pray that the pain passes quickly and that he doesn't have to go to rehab when his foot is healed because of the very good meds he is on. :).

One huge blessing, his work is leaving him alone. They are making sure that he has the time to recover.


Another big life thing going on, Brian, one of my brothers is on his way to the sand box in about week and 1/2. He has volunteered and is very excited about serving his country. We are going to send him cards and boxes to keep him excited. He is going to be with he Army National Guard. He is a good man who wants to serve his country while taking care of the bad guys! He needs prayers for honor, strength and courage. He will be over there for just under one year. We love him and hope that this mission goes well for him!

Broken

I suppose a broken foot is way to get to spend time with Matthew. Since he has been on recruiting duty, Matthew has worked about 14 to 16 hour days, 6 days per week. This has been very hard on him and Lexi and I miss him! We got married because we really enjoyed being around one another, so this stinks. However, on Friday he was playing softball with all the other recruiters. he went to catch a pop fly and caught his foot on a tuft of grass. As he hyper-extended his foot, he also broke it. The Dr. called it a spiral fracture which means that he broke the bone and then the two broken pieces twisted away from one another. He has been in lots of pain! The good part is that he is at home! We actually get to see him for sometime! He is on bed rest for at least a week and will probably be longer after he sees the Ortho. Dr. on Tuesday. it stinks that his foot is broken and that he hurts, but it sure is great to see that man that I love!

Did I mention that he made the out while breaking his foot? What a man!

Officially Old

I am officially old and this is how I know...

I only have housewife things to blog about on this blog

MTV drives me crazy

Kids now have no idea what "Back to the Future" is

I have a whisker

I can only drive at night while wearing my glasses

I don't like to see peoples' bras or underwear when out in public

I must always wear a bra because my "ladies" are now babyfied (you gals know what I mean)

My big concerns are which cleaners are cleaning best

I need to have at least 8 hours of sleep and will hopefully be getting that soon...Lexi will sleep through the night

My belly will never again see the light of day due to the incredible inability of my skin to stretch

I think about things like cholesterol

I have to sleep with a pillow between my knees

I get excited about new furniture

How do you know you are old?

Blessed

I am stealing the title from my friend K. To be a happy and content person, we have to constantly count our many blessings. Remember the song, "Count your many blessings name them one by one. Count your many blessings, see what God has done. Count your blessings, name them one by one. Count your many blessings see what God has done." So the following is a list of blessings provided by God...
1. Matthew, he is such a amazing husband. Sometimes I wonder how we ended up having such a great marriage after dating and being married in only 4 1/2 months. Then I think, we both had GOD!
2. Lexi -- She is so fabulous. She is one of the most easy going babies I have ever met. She is happy and content most of the time. I think God had her in his plan for us because when she is upset and crying, I don't do that well. I get stressed and make it worse.
3. Lexi is getting on a routine -- wake up, nap 2 hours later, wake up, nap 2 hours later, wake up and then head to bed. This means I have time each day that I can now count on to get things done. Then in the evenings Matthew and I have a few moments together.
4. Matthew comes home each day
5. Matthew has a job which does not rely on the economy so we have no concern for $$$ for our food and home.
6. Lexi will get to grow up with her aunt and uncle who are so sweet and cheerful
7. Though we have lots of steps and 2nd/3rd marriages in our families, this means that Lexi has LOTS of people who love her!
8. We have a church congregation who loves us and who we adore. Pitman c of C is awesome!
9. God answers prayers!
10. My dog Mac
11. Friends -- because we live so far from most of our family, friends become hugely important
12. FAMILY!!! We have great family here in NJ who we have gotten to spend lots of time with since moving here 4 years ago. We also have family in the South, in Bermuda, in Australia, in New Mexico, California, Minnesota, WY, Kansas, Missouri, TX, and on and on. We love our family and so appreciate them.
13. Honestly, I love watching TV!
14. Our country! I love America and am so grateful to be able to live here.
15. Brian will be safe while serving in Iraq. I am so proud of the fact that he is serving something bigger than himself. He is so great to be willing to go and get the bad guys!
16. Was able to visit Brandon while in EOD school. He is serving his counrty in a way that few people do!
So many more, these are the ones I have time to post right now while the baby sleeps. Here are a few of my blessings...

My baby brother

The sexy husband I married holding the most precious baby girl

L'sGodparents

Matthew and L

Baby girl with her twin buddies

So I used to be one of those people who made fun of the people who had big parties for their kids. WHat in the world do little kids need big parties for? Well, now I need to make fun of myself and eat my past words. We had a Welcome to the World party for Lexi. At the party, we had her God Parents do a little ceremony and dedicate themselves to Lexi as lights in her life. We had cake, food, and just fun getting together. Aunt Jeanne was a huge help in planning and preparing for Lexi's big day! Grandma Chelle, Aunite Rebecca and Auntie Hannah flew in for the big day! We had lots of our New Jersey family there to join in on the fun. And thanks for Aunt Mia who planned the God Parent ceremony. We will not dobig crazy Birthday parties, but a kid needs a few big days...Welcome to the World, Graduation, Wedding...you know the big stuff! I was happy to be able to do this for our baby!
Have fun looking at the pics.

Semper Fi

Me and my Sister


My baby brother


Megan holding her niece

My wonderful husband has been able to complete 2 contracts this month!! The prayers have been so helpful and thank you for going to God for us. Though he is still working crazy hours, he was able to get 2 contracts! We are so happy that this month went so much better. So please keep the prayers coming and THANK YOU GOD!

On another note, this week has been better. One of my wonderful friends from church offered to watch my daughter (weird to say) all of Wednesday afternoon. Tuesday I was able to spend the day by the pool and Matthew's aunt and uncle's house. While Lexi was with my dear friend I was able to clean clean clean! Then my cousin is flying in tomorrow for a weekend visit. Then to top it off, I get to see my dad, step-mom, brother and sister in Albuquerque along with lots more of my Trent family. So this has been a good week and next week will be too. I will be flying with an infant, so say a little prayer ;).

Today life is good and we have to keep counting our blessings.

Pity Party

Okay, since last Wednesday things have not been nearly as wonderful as they had been. I had a friend call and ask if life was "really" as great as they sounded on the blog. Well, since Wed. life is tough. For some reason Lexi started fussing a lot and waking much more frequently. Then Matthew was at work late every night last week until about 10:30 p.m. He leaves by 6:45 a.m. and gets back so late! How do people those kind of hours for any length of time???? We (Matthew and I) are so tired. This recruiting job is a killer! Did you know that of the approximate 35 recruiters in New Jersey, there are 3 singles, 13 pending divorces, and one person having major issues and being discharged. 13 DIVORCES!!!!! We know that we have God on our side, but 13 divorces gives you an idea of how hard recruiting duty is. Matthew is working so many hours, totally exhausted, and then I don't get a break from a new baby because how can he give me a break when he is more tired than I am. My parents keep encouraging me that anyone can do anything for the short-term. Well, it will be tough to maintain a happy home for this 3 year tour!

I am by no means a single mom...I never have to worry about where I am going to have $$$ to pay the bills. We are also blessed that Matthew at least comes home every night! I am, however, raising Lexi for this short time we are on recruiting duty. Matthew gets to see her, at the most, for about an hour each day; that is a short time! I feel very alone sometimes in this parenting thing. Then I feel bad for feeling unhappy, because Matthew is that much more tired and stressed and he doesn't get to see all the smiles that I get to see. At least we don't have to worry about Matthew being shot at in Iraq.

It is hard to keep going and being here for such a needy "parasite." A family member called the baby a parasite, because for right now, she takes and takes and wears out the host. I know this will pass and most people end up forgetting what it was like with a newborn. (That's what they said about pregnancy...haven't forgotten that yet ;). Life right now is hard and that is okay. It will be better soon. God has already answered prayers about making Matthew's job better. I am just excited for this beautiful daughter of mine to be getting more sleep and becoming more independent.

After a good cry tonight, a good talk with my wonderful husband and a phone call to talk things out, I am better. Just a rough couple of days. Will never blow off a mom who says she is tired again. When Lexi is older, I will also make a mission of helping new moms!

Oh, what's with the husband being unable to figure out what goes in a diaper bag? Matthew is an intelligent, very capable man who surprised me this lack of awareness. Any of you ladies have trouble getting to church on time because the father of your wonderful babies has no idea what items and supplies need to accompany the baby? How can daddy think we can just walk out the door with only baby in arms!

I love you ladies and I have a new found respect for every mother on the planet. No wonder we have Mother's day! This mother who is no longer on the mommy honeymoon is signing off for the night. I love you ladies!
B

Smiles and Coos

Our life is so blessed. We are in such a good place thanks to God's love for us! We are enjoying our little girl. She lights up our home with her smiles and "talking" to us. I think she might be a kid who talks A LOT when she gets older. Where in the world would that trait come from??? Also, I am pleasantly surprised at this full-time mom/housewife thing. I LOVE IT! ME, a person who didn't even want kids until a couple of years ago! ME who only wanted ever to teach and couldn't even think about serving and being "submissive" to a man! Wow, how God can bless and change a person's heart. God has gifted me with a husband whom I can hardly wait each day to see and serve. When Matthew calls and needs something, I have the greatest pleasure out of doing as he asks! Will this last? I hope so. I hope this isn't just because it is new and different. I do know I get bored in a job after about 2 years, so we shall see. In the meantime, I LOVE THIS JOB. Even when it pays in smiles and coos. Especially when it pays in smiles and coos.

We have also been blessed with the gift of being able to afford one income. 2 and 1/2 years ago we decided to pay off our debt. God provided amazing ways to make that happen! With no car payment, no credit card payment, and no student loans it is amazing what you can afford. Thank you God for this blessing.

Do you feel closest to God when you are feeling blessed and provided for? That is when I most frequently turn to God. He is so good. To quote Steve Sikes, the preacher guy at our church, "God is good all the time, all the time God is good!"

Been a while

Hello to all. Has been some time since I was last on here. You see, my mom flew in to visit, then my dad came to visit and then Lexi and I went to my dad's house for 2 and 1/2 weeks. Not sure if I have mentioned this, but Lexi is an EASY baby -- Thank GOD for easy baby -- so we took the trip so Lexi could meet all kinds of family down south.

We are up to about 5 hours of sleep at a time. This is great, though I am an 8 hour person, I know there will come a time when we sleep all night! I enjoy each day holding our baby girl, feeding her and talking with her. She has begun talking back with loud coos, laughs and great big smiles. This mom thing is just absolutely wonderful. I thank God each and every day -- multiple times per day -- for such a happy baby. With the rough pregnancy that we had, I would gladly have a rough 9 months and a healthy easy baby for long term.

Here are a few pics of our life over the last several weeks.